Armor of God - Study Overview

As we say goodbye to 2016 and look forward to the new year, now is a great time to stop and reflect the many blessings bestowed to us last year. It is also a good opportunity to keep our eyes open to lessons that the Lord is grooming for us in the year to come. 2016 was a year of huge growth for me. Personally, I had cultivated a strong group of friends and mentors who have poured into me in amazing ways. Mentally, I became a stronger and more assertive person by slowly stepping away from my role as a people pleaser and really meditating on doing what is right for my family, which sometimes means saying “no” to people. Spiritually, I entered into a season of discipline as the Lord revealed to me that I needed to stop being a timid victim and start being the powerful woman he created me to be (2 Timothy 1:7).

It is amazing when the Lord is teaching us a lesson; the theme seems to come at us at all angles. Perhaps you first heard a little nugget from a friend. Then the following Sunday, maybe you heard a similar message at church. Later on in the week, a television program touched on the subject and before you know it, you begin to string together all of these “coincidences” and the lightbulb goes off. This was true for me when it came to the revelations I mentioned above but the meat and potatoes of my lesson came from a Bible study I did at my church.  The mentor moms for our class selected Priscilla Shirer’s The Armor of God and from the moment I opened the book, I could feel God whispering to me truths for my life. This seven week study focuses on nine small verses which had a lasting impact on my life.

Ephesians 6:10-19

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place,  and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. Pray also for me, that whenever I speak, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel.

Because this Bible study is saturated with meaty and applicable material, I could easily dissect each week but that would essentially be walking you through the entire study, which I really suggest you study on your own or with a group.  I will share with you a few of my major takeaways from this study. This is also a great opportunity to mention that you will only get out of this study what you put into it. I have been a part of Bible studies were I did a bare bones minimum and walked away without many tools to help me and then there were the studies where I threw myself into the work and experienced God’s truth in a whole new way. I would encourage you to do the later with this study. I promise, you will get something amazing out of it.

Priscilla starts out her study with a powerful realization that whatever circumstance, person or problem that is taxing for you right now is not actually your real enemy. The real enemy in Satan. The Father of Lies wants us to believe that there is not a spiritual warfare going on, “because as long as you’re focused on what you can see with your physical eyes, he can continue to run rampant underneath the surface” (page 11). The enemy is not particularly creative when it comes to snagging you and me but he does know how to use the right kind of bait for each of us. On page 33, Priscilla lists the ten most favorite strategies Satan uses, specifically against women, which I have copied below. (If you do this study, I would highly encourage you to mark this page for future reference.)

Strategy #1 - Against your Passion

He seeks to dim your whole desire for prayer, full your interest in spiritual things, and downplay the potency of your most strategic weapons (Eph. 6:10-20).

Strategy #2 - Against your Focus

He disguises himself and manipulates your perspective so you end up focusing on the wrong culprit, directing your weapons at the wrong enemy (2 Cor. 11:14).

Strategy #3 - Against your Identity

He magnifies your insecurities, leading you to doubt what God says about you and to disregard what He’s given you (Eph. 1:17-19).

Strategy #4 - Against your Family

He wants to disintegrate your family, dividing your home, rendering it chaotic, restless and unfruitful (Gen 3:1-7).

Strategy #5 0 Against your Confidence

He constantly reminds you of your past mistakes and bad choices, hoping to convince you that you’re under God’s judgement rather than under the blood (Rev. 12:10).

Strategy #6 - Against your Calling

He amplifies fear, worry and anxiety until they’re the loudest voices in your head, causing you to deem the adventure of following God too risky to attempt (Josh. 14:8)

Strategy #7 - Against your Purity

He tries to tempt you to wear certain sins, convincing you that you can tolerate them without risking consequence, knowing they’ll only wedge distance between you and God (Isa. 59:1-2).

Strategy #8 - Against your Rest and Contentment

He hopes to overload your life and schedule, pressuring you to constantly push beyond your limits, never feeling permission to say no (Deut. 5:15).

Strategy #9 - Against your Heart

He uses every opportunity to keep old wounds fresh in mind, knowing that anger and hurt and bitterness and unforgiveness will continue to roll the damage forward (Heb. 12:15).

Strategy #10 - Against your Relationships

He creates disruption and disunity within your circle of friends and within the shared community of the body of Christ (1 Tim. 2:8).

When I did this study and learned Satan’s tactics, I realized that he was attacking me using eight of the ten strategies above. Now that I have more clarity on my personal issues, I can see, I was actually being attacked with all ten, unbeknownst to me. I foolishly believed the lies that my problems were with people and not the unseen. I allowed Satan to put blinders on my eyes and focus on anything but the real problem at hand, which only lead me down a path of unhappiness, guilt, and drama. After I learned these strategies, I was able to be more on guard and not fall into every trap that Satan set for me. With each trap I avoided, I became stronger, less timid and more assured that I was walking in God’s truth.

Satan is no fool. He knows how to lure us, even when we are aware of his strategies. He aims to work on what I call the Control Center. The control center has four levels: your mind, your will, your emotions and your conscience.  Priscilla describes how Satan works with the control center like this:

“Your Mind: distorting your thinking with lies about God, His Word, and even yourself, trying to cripple your soul through negative, unbiblical throught processes.

Your Will: redirecting your ambitions away from eternal, godly pursuit, luring you toward interests that are temporal, short-sighted, even directly opposed to the will of God.

Your Emotions: tampering with your feelings, piggybacking on runaway responses like anger, discouragement, revenge or sadness to persuade you into making unstable choices.

Your Conscience: influencing your conscience so it steers you to live in a way that doesn’t line up with biblical guidelines.” (page 71).

The most common way that Satan achieves his goal of attacking the command center is by using anger. He whispers to us that comments and actions of others are hurtful and purposeful and then encourages us to lick our own wounds until we are in such a pit of self-pity that it is too late to realize that he trapped us. We have become overly sensitive and take offense to anything and everything that is done to us, without trying to see the other person’s point of view or offering a heaping helping of grace which the Father always seems to deem appropriate for us. Priscilla says this, “When we are easily wounded and hurt by the words and actions of other people, and then choose to nurse those wounds instead of offering forgiveness and grace, we provide the enemy ample opportunity to plant a root of bitterness in our hearts - a root that’s sure to bear rotten fruit for many years to come.” (page 48) I have this sentence underlined and starred in my workbook because I was guilty of this. The Lord showed me that I had allowed bitterness to take root in my heart and it had started growing thick, black, ugly lines that would surely choke out all the love and grace quickly. I had to get real and honest and allow myself to experience past hurts again so that I could acknowledge them and then forgive and then let go. It was the only way to save my heart. This continues to be a work in progress for me, but when I am feeling like the victim and wanting to lick my wounds, I am reminded of Ephesians 4:27, “and do not give the devil a foothold.” I do not want to allow Satan to use my anger as a foothold for bitterness to take root. During this time, I also walked through “The Steps to Freedom in Christ” by Neil T. Anderson with a pastor from my church. A valuable exercise I took from that guidebook was when I remembered an act that was done to me to harm me, I first stop and acknowledge that it happened. Then, (out loud if possible) I say, “I choose to forgive (insert offender’s name) for (insert offender’s action).” I have found this to be extremely helpful in destroying the bitterness that was attacking my heart.

Priscilla ends this study with a number of valuable verses that prove our inheritance and identity in Christ (pages 178-179). Satan wants us to believe that we were not worthy of the sacrifice that Christ made for us. The Destroyer wants us to think that the gifts and worth that God bestows to us is for a more elite and righteous group but he is wrong. No matter what path led you to where you are, you are deeply loved. No matter what your past actions entail, you are covered by the blood of Christ and are forgiven. No matter who you are, what you look like or where you live, you are God’s workmanship.

Before you begin your study, I want to take a moment to pray for you.

Lord,

You are a good, good Father. You love us deeply and in a way that our human minds simply can’t even comprehend. You rescued us from our sin and because of your power and love, we have the opportunity to claim our inheritance here on earth as well. Thank you for your provision.

You know our innermost being. There is nothing we can hide from you. As we walk into the new year, I pray that you would guide our hearts to be bent to you. Help our ears to hear you more clearly. Prompt us to walk in your ways.

Protect these women who are about to embark on a journey of self discovery through Priscilla’s study. Show each of these women what you want them to know about you and themselves. Bless their time together. May you remove any hindrances that might keep these women from learning the revelations you have in store for them.

Thank you for your undying faithfulness. We love you, Lord!

Amen

**Originally written for Emerge Mothers Academy's Parenting Class**

Being Blessed by the Beatitudes

This week has been rough. My almost three year old has been exploring how far he can push boundaries with his parents. My one year old is convinced that she needs to be surgically attached to me for a large portion of the day. To be honest, I feel like I don’t even know who I am these days. I feel like my day consists of protecting Sadie from getting wailed on by Zachary, cleaning up/fixing meals with Sadie attached to me like a kangaroo joey, enforcing time-outs/brain storming disciplinary strategies, and then everything just seems to be on a repeated loop.

There are certainly great things about each day; like when Sadie wraps her little arms around my neck and presses her face close to mine, or watching Zachary and Sadie delighting in a bath time splash session, or hearing Zachary talks about his day enthusiastically, but we are definitely in a season where most of the day is hard and we are trying to find our rhythm again. I seem to be asking myself the same questions over and over again. How many temper tantrums can one toddler throw in a day? Are time outs even effective? Am I making a difference in the lives of my kids? Am I showing them the love of Christ in my parenting? How can I do that when my anger flares up and I lose my patience? How can I live up to the standards that Jesus taught on the Sermon on the Mount as a parent? Even though I lose many battles in a given day, I know that I am equipped by the One who is the Ultimate Parent to guide me in parenting my children well, and you are too. We just need to remind ourselves of this fact, and sometimes we need that reminder multiple times a day. Let’s look at what Jesus taught on the mountainside.

Now when he saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, and he began to teach them, saying:

“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.

Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.

Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom and heaven.

Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”

Matthew 5:1-12

The Sermon on the Mount was the longest recorded sermon of Jesus.  When the people heard Jesus preach on the Beatitudes, they were, no doubt, confused because each beatitude was – and still is - a contradiction of the world’s way of life. Jesus said blessed are the poor in spirit, but the world values pride and personal independence. Jesus said blessed are the meek and those who mourn, but the world says we should strive for power and happiness. Jesus said blessed are the righteous and merciful, but the world says we should pursue personal gain and should do so in any means accessible.  So basically, to be blessed means to be a walking contradiction to what our flesh desires and society deems as acceptable. How then, can we meet the mark that the Lord has set for us when everything in us and around us points us in the opposite direction?

The first is to see yourself as God sees you. The Bible is essentially one big love story between God and his creation, which includes you. The “Cliff Notes” version goes like this: God creates everything and deemed it good, but after he created man, it was then that He said it was “very good” (Genesis 1:31).  God gives Adam and Eve a simple rule: don’t eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (Genesis 2:17), but Satan tricks Eve into thinking she needs to be able to see both good and evil. Up until that moment, Adam and Eve only knew good, therefore Satan’s offer was to expose them to evil and so Eve is deceived and eats from the tree and gives some fruit to Adam (Genesis 3:6). Their eyes were then opened to sin and they felt naked, ashamed and fearful – all things they never knew or felt until that moment. They also broke their Father’s heart who desperately desired a relationship with his creation but now that relationship was marred, so God made a new plan.  This plan would bridge the gap between His perfect righteousness and his broken children. This plan was his own Son, Jesus, who would come to earth in the most humble way to die as an atonement of our sins and then rise again three days later. That kind of sacrifice shows just how crazy in love with you God is. The Bible is God’s love story written out for you. In it, he tells you truths about who you are in Him. You are worthy (Ephesians 1:4). You are loved (Romans 8:38-39). You are meaningful (Ephesians 1:11). You are God’s workmanship (Ephesians 2:10). You are redeemed and forgiven (Colossians 1:22).

1 John 3:1 says, “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called the children of God! And that is what we are. The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.”  When we start to view ourselves as God views us, we don’t have time to entertain thoughts that devalue us. It doesn’t matter if we aren’t skinny/smart/creative/wealthy/funny/etc. enough for society’s standards. Sometimes, when I am feeling low, I think about this truth. My Father loves me. My Father desires to be in relationship with me. My Father never leaves me. My Father strengthens me. When I reflect on these truths, my self-worth rises and I remember who I am. I am a daughter of the King (John 1:12) and so are you. Because of what Jesus did for us on the cross, when God looks at us, he sees us washed and redeemed. It doesn’t matter what you have done in the past. If you have accepted Jesus as your personal Savior, then our Father looks at you and sees righteousness.

However, it is not enough just to bask in your knowledge of how treasured you are; you need to act on that truth. Love is an action. It is a choice. You need to make that choice every day – multiple times a day, and that is hard because our flesh desires the exact opposite of what Jesus taught on the Sermon on the Mount. So then we need to live differently than the world lives and we can do so by trying to be more like Jesus. This may seem like a daunting task, and certainly, we will never be perfect, but we don’t have to do this alone. Jesus told his disciples that he was going to send the Helper for us, who is the Holy Spirit who will be with us always (John 16:7). And we also know that this Helper is greater than “he who is in the world” (1 John 4:4) so we can overcome the traps that Satan sets for us to fail. We will fail but the Holy Spirit will help refine us if we truly desire to imitate Jesus.

The take away here should be that it is possible to be blessed. It is possible to develop the attitudes Jesus taught when we see ourselves the way God sees us because that elevates our self-worth and stirs a desire in us to love others. When we love others we are acting more like Jesus and when we act more like Jesus we make the choice to be righteous which is how God already sees us.

Ephesians 5:1-2 can sum up this lesson beautifully:

“Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.”

**Originally written for Emerge Mothers Academy Parenting Class**

Choosing Peace with God’s Calling for You

These past couple of months, I have asked you to do more than just read the words in this blog. First, we talked about identifying who God called you to be. I wanted you to make a list of your skills and learn your spiritual gifts. I requested you to spend time in prayer to earnestly seek your identity in Christ. Next, I challenged you to bravely step into the role God set aside for you. We talked about how you are good enough, strong enough, and grace-filled enough to fulfill a purpose that God designed specifically for you. Now, I am asking you for one final action and that is to choose peace with your God given role.  The homework that I gave you over the course of these past three months is a condensed version of a lesson that God had been teaching me for almost three years.

Before I had children, I was professionally driven. I was finishing up graduate school and had my five year plan all set to go. I even had two teaching positions offered to me before I even graduated. I thought that I was exactly where I needed to be. After all, teaching and molding impressionable youth is important and Jesus loves the little children too, so I thought I was golden. I felt that I was loving my neighbor and serving my community through teaching. I also knew that time was ticking for me to begin having a family, but I figured I could get a few years of teaching in before that and then I would continue to teach since I could enjoy my kids during my summers off. It was a good plan. It was a noble plan. It was not God’s plan.

I came home one afternoon to find my husband, Troy, already there. I figured he came home from work sick but he was just sitting on the couch, waiting for me. He told me to come in and talk with him - never a good sign. He had learned that day that his company’s accounting team would be transferred to Cincinnati and we would be moving within the year. This threw a wrench in my plans. All my teaching ties were in Minneapolis. What was I going to do in a city where I didn’t know anyone? I tried to hit the ground running. I researched hundreds of school districts and filled out many applications as well, but I didn’t have any contacts. I was able to get a job as a classroom aide, which was great because the teacher I worked with gave me a lot of teaching freedom, but it wasn’t my own class – and my biological clock was still ticking. I got pregnant that school year and was hopeful about getting a teaching job in that school for the next year. I figured I was a shoe-in, but once again, God had a plan that differed from my own.

After my son was born, I was home on maternity leave and found out that I did not get the third grade position for which I had applied and interviewed. I was crushed. But my principal told me to be patient and that she felt confident a teaching position would open up soon that would be a better fit for me, so I planned to come back the following year as an aid again and bide my time.

A day or two after that dismal phone call, Zachary was just two weeks old and we were sleeping in the converted attic of our rented Cape Cod cottage when a large limb from the 150 year old Beech tree fell on our house. Being from the upper Midwest, I initially thought there was a tornado as I saw the roof and the wall rip apart. I ran to Zachary, but with the damage being right by the stairs, I didn’t know how to escape. I honestly thought I was going to die that morning and hoped that if I threw myself over my baby, he might survive. Thankfully, both Zachary and I walked away unscathed – not even a scratch on my feet as I walked barefoot through the debris of broken glass and nails.

Needless to say, we moved. We got out of our lease and went out to the suburbs where the commute to my job would be a wash financially, so my husband and I decided I would stay home with Zachary. While I loved being with my sweet boy, I was isolated and what’s worse, I didn’t think I was making a difference – especially with kingdom work. It was hard for me to think about all the money I spent on my Master’s degree, only to see it collect dust as I traded in my dress pants and lesson plans for sweats and Sesame Street. I needed a purpose. What was my calling? I wanted to be obedient to God.

One evening, through prayer and meditation, God gave me my purpose and to be honest, He didn’t seem pleased with my reaction. I felt like our conversation was Him lovingly rebuking me. He very clearly told me that He had given me two healthy children (I was pregnant with my daughter, Sadie, at the time) and my job was to raise them to love the Lord. I am sure He was thinking, “What more do I need to do to get this idea through your head? I moved you to Cincinnati so you could focus on your family, but you focused on your agenda. I took away the teaching job so you could put your energy into Zachary, but still, your eyes were on your plans. That Beech tree fell on your house and forced you to move and only then did you reluctantly stay home with my blessing of Zachary and yet you still don’t know your purpose?!”

After that night, I turned my attitude right around. No longer was I moping around the house, mourning my former life. While I still have days that are hard, I am able to look at my job as a mother as true and valuable kingdom work. Amazingly, after I accepted my role as a mother, the Lord blessed me with more opportunities to serve Him, one of them being writing this blog for you. I learned that the more obedient I was to God, the more He entrusted to me. However, there were a few wrong turns I made and pit falls I fell into that I wanted to share so that you can overcome and identify these obstacles as you live out your mission.

Recognize Opposition. What’s right is not always what is popular and this is even truer when it comes to following God. Whenever we do the will of God, we become a target for evil. Satan doesn’t want us to further God’s kingdom, so believe me; he is going to do his best to derail us, whether by a friend, neighbor, family member or situation. Stand firm and know that following God is far more important than following man. I Peter 3:14 says, “But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed.”   

Pray to be Equipped. When Sadie was a few months old, I was holding her as she lay sleeping peacefully in my arms and reflecting on that day. I was exhausted just reliving it mentally. Both kids had been so demanding that I felt I was running on fumes. I cried out to God that night. I told Him that I knew my job was to raise these two healthy kids but that I was doing a terrible job of it. I was tired and void of joy. I didn’t want Him to make my days any easier, as I recognize that God is not a genie, but I did want Him to equip me for this role He gave me as a parent. This continues to be my daily prayer. Each day brings new challenges so it is vital when carrying out God’s plans that we are seeking Him for guidance. James 1:5 tells us, “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” When you ask the Lord for wisdom in your obedience to Him, it gives Him great joy to know that not only do you what to do the task He has given you - but you want to do it well.

Grab a Buddy, a Group and a Mentor. We were created for community. God has community within the trinity with the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit and so it was also necessary for man to have community. Genesis 1:18 states, “It is not good for the man to be alone.” This is true for us all. We need people to help build us up with encouragement, present us with teachable moments and sometimes lovingly discipline us when we stray from the path. It is vital that each of us finds “our person.” This is someone who you can completely reveal yourself to. This person is someone who keeps you in check. I have a dear friend from college who loves me so much that she tells me when I am being a bonehead and encourages me when I am low. Next find a group of people with similar interests and needs as you. This will allow you to bounce ideas off each other as well as help you to realize that you are not alone with what you are facing. As an introvert, this was scary for me, but I took a deep breath and joined a MOPS group and a young ladies Bible study. These are all young moms who are on the same path as me and we walk alongside each other in our trials and joys. I am also in a Supper Club group. This is a group of friends who just want to spend time together. Our only agenda is community together. These groups of women encourage each other and by spending time with them, it enables me to recharge my batteries, making me a better mom. Finally, find a mentor. Nobody has all the answers, but why not glean the knowledge from someone who has already walked in our shoes. Find someone who will invest in you and challenge you in your walk with the Lord and your fulfillment of His purpose. I like to describe these people as those who ooze wisdom. Don’t feel strange asking someone to mentor you. They will be impressed with your tenacity to be a better person and a better mom.

Get in the Word. If you want to seek God and you want to find your purpose in His plan, you NEED to grab your Bible and read. This part is not optional. God’s Word is holy and alive and is our owner’s manual for figuring out how to do life. I read somewhere that because the Bible is God’s living Word, when you open your Bible, you should expect something to happen. I love that. It certainly makes reading a whole lot more exciting! Can your latest best seller book say that for itself? I don’t think so. This is the only Book that is God-breathed[1], so why wouldn’t we want to get into it and see what He has to say. The scripture that you read will not only help you overcome everyday obstacles and help you with the oppositions you will surely face, it will also further prepare you for the kingdom work you are pursuing as well as delight the Lord. It’s pretty much a win all around.

Choose Peace. Peace is not sipping a mojito on the beach, listening to the waves gently crash against the shore. (Though, I wouldn’t mind participating in that focus group to find out firsthand.) Peace is a characteristic of the Holy Spirit[2] and therefore contrary to our human nature. We live in a crazy and chaotic world. Peace is something we have to choose because it does not come naturally to us. If it did, the temper tantrums that my toddler throws would be a cake walk. Choosing peace means that when I am second guessing everything I am doing as a mom, I understand that God loves my kids even more than I do and He has got this thing under control. Choose to believe that truth – God’s got this! Nothing is too big for Him. When you choose to believe God, you are actively choosing peace. When you actively choose peace, things will fall into place.

As we conclude our series, I want to tell you how proud I am of you. I know that some of you actually did your homework. Some of you are desperately seeking God’s will and my heart rejoices in knowing that. More importantly, God’s heart rejoices in your desire to be obedient to Him.

“May the God of peace, who through the blood of the eternal covenant brought back from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great Shepherd of the sheep, equip you with everything good for doing his will, and may he work in us what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for every and ever. Amen.”

Hebrews13:20-21

**Originally written for Emerge Mothers Academy Parenting Class**

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[1] 2 Timothy 3:16-17 “All scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

[2] Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

Bravely Stepping into the Role God Has Planned for You

My son, Zachary, is two and half years old and has recently discovered the movie, The Incredibles. “Mommy! Dada! Snuggle and watch Incredibles?” is what we hear almost every day.  Zachary loves to watch this super hero family because they are the good guys, they save the world, and they are brave. Brave. Sometimes this is a word that we would only use to describe our super hero cartoons. Maybe we would use it to describe someone who puts their life on the line like those in the military, law enforcement or firefighters. Brave might be a descriptor for those who are persecuted, grieving a loved one or fighting cancer. Brave is not always a word we would use to label ourselves in everyday life; however, brave is exactly what we are called to be. Today, we are going to debunk three myths[1] that many of us wrestle with when it comes to stepping into our roles God has planned for us.

Myth #1: I am not good enough.

Oh my, how I have said this to myself so many times. After my son was born, I had a hard time believing that I could make a difference, especially when it came to kingdom work. After all I was “just a stay at home mom” and it was challenging enough just keeping my clothes free from breastmilk, spit-up and that nasty baby poop that smells like sour Greek yogurt. I would image that God’s heart breaks when he sees us feel this way about ourselves. He dearly loves us. He designed us and sustains us so of course we are good enough, but sometimes we have a hard time accepting this truth.  Moses – spoiler alert - wasn’t a mom, but he felt this way too. When God told him to lead His people out of Egypt, Moses actually said to God, “Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?” (Exodus 3:11) God straight up tells Moses what his purpose is, and Moses decides to tell the All-Knowing, All-Powerful, Creator of the universe that he is going to take a hard pass. But our patient Father knew that Moses was nervous – after all, He knit Moses in his mother’s womb[2], so God tells Moses, “I will be with you.” (Exodus 3:12) What can we take from Moses self-doubt? We are absolutely equipped to fulfill the purpose that God has planned for us because HE planned it for US. We ARE good enough.

Myth #2: I am not strong enough.

Everyone is wired with a defense mechanism when we are in trouble. It is called ‘flight or fight.’ When those hairs on the back of your neck stand up and you know something funky is about to go down, you either clench your fists and stand your ground, or you road-runner your rear out of there. I am a flighter, not a fighter. Sometimes this is a good thing, a more safe choice. Other times it means not standing up for what is right which makes me responsible for the wrong. I want to do what is right, but I think that I am just not strong enough. What can I do? Gideon felt this way too. After Moses listened to God’s calling and realized he was good enough, he led the Israelites out of Egypt. Unfortunately, it was only a matter of time before this people group forgot about how God answered their prayers and delivered them from slavery. They started whining about not getting to their destination quick enough and decided to worship fake gods, which did not sit well with THE God. God figured that since the Israelites didn’t need Him, He would hand them over to a group of people called the Midianites. These people were trouble. They ransacked camps, crops and livestock. The Israelites decided that they needed God again and pleaded with Him to save them….again. God chose Gideon to save the people from the Midianites; however, Gideon gives the Lord the “but God, I am not strong enough” spiel. “How can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest and I am the least in my family.” (Judges 6:15) Once again, our patient Father knew that Gideon was scared, because He created Gideon too, so God tells him, “I will be with you.” (Judges 6:16) We were wired to do the job that God calls us to do because God created us. He knows what we can accomplish because He made us. We ARE strong enough because HE planned it for US.

Myth #3: I am not grace-filled enough.

Pride is a sneaky thing. It tells us that we are better than our neighbor because our kids are better-behaved. Pride allows us to look down on others who don’t have as high of an education as we do. Pride gives us permission to deem what others “deserve.” Pride is a sheep in wolf’s clothing. Moms play a part in this ugliness. I have seen (and sometimes, shamefully been a part of) quips on social media about stances on breastfeeding, vaccinations, schooling, discipline, etc. Sometimes we think that we are “helping” others by sharing what we do, but what we are doing is throwing our pride around and making it look like we are extending grace, but that is the last thing we are actually doing. Jonah struggled with this too. Yep, that guy that got swallowed by a whale. He chose not to follow God’s calling for his life, and his reason was pride. God told Jonah to go to Nineveh to preach against the people’s wickedness, but Jonah doesn’t want to save the people of Nineveh because they weren’t Israelites and he knew that if he went there, God would change the hearts of those people. Doesn’t this sound familiar – not wanting to help someone because they may not be like us or make us uncomfortable? Jonah’s heart was hardened to the Ninevites, but three days in the belly of a whale can change a man, so he did in fact go to Nineveh and the people repented as Jonah feared they would. Later, Jonah decided to have a little chat with the Holy One who apparently – in Jonah’s eyes – needed a little hand slap. “But Jonah was greatly displeased and became angry. He prayed to the Lord, ‘O Lord, is this not what I said when I was still at home? That is why I was so quick to flee to Tarshish. I knew that you are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abounding in love, a God who relents from sending calamity.’” (Jonah 4:1-2) Jonah is actually mad that God is so forgiving. God lets Jonah rant and then He says to him, “Have you any right to be angry? (vs. 4) Nineveh has more than a hundred and twenty thousand people who cannot tell their right hand from their left, and many cattle as well. Should I not be concerned about that great city?” (vs 10-11) God basically tells Jonah, to chill out. He wants Jonah to understand that lives are at stake here - and apparently cattle, maybe He was craving a good burger. God knows it’s hard for us to extend grace because he made us. However, that little fact does not get us off the hook. We have been forgiven for every wrong and so we need to extend that same grace to others. We may not feel that we are grace-filled enough, but we are called to love others as ourselves[3]. Being grace-filled is something that we have to practice. We can ask the Lord to help us love others the way He loves them. By doing so, we CAN be grace-filled enough.

Your homework was to reflect on your skills and gifts. I asked you to group items together to see if any patterns could be made. More importantly, I told you to spend time in prayer, asking God what He wants you to do with the gifts He has given you. Some of you reading this know what your purpose is right now. While it is exhilarating, it can be scary too. Following Jesus is anything but comfortable. Maybe you have been believing the myths above. Maybe you think you’re not good enough, like Moses thought. Maybe you think you’re not strong enough, as Gideon did. Or maybe you think you aren’t grace-filled enough like Jonah.  The big take away from debunking these three myths is that all these guys were equipped by the Lord and none of these guys were alone. God was with them and He is with you. Don’t let Satan come in and convince you that God’s power is not enough. Remember, God sees you as His treasured and precious baby girl. He won’t leave you. Deuteronomy 31:6 says, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave you or forsake you.” You’ve got this! You can do this! You ARE good enough. You ARE strong enough. You ARE grace-filled enough, because you are not alone and you have been created for a specific purpose. God won’t let you fail at what He has called you to do.

Maybe you have done your homework but you feel like you don’t have a clear direction of what God’s purpose is for you right now. I would encourage you to take this time to volunteer in an area that gives you joy. If one of your skills was baking; make some cookies for a lonely neighbor. If you like to read; offer to read with kids at your local elementary school (as a former teacher, you should know that staff loves this! Call the office and tell them you want to volunteer and you will be placed somewhere quickly!) My husband’s aunt grows a garden and its sole purpose is to give the flowers away to spread a little cheer.  If you like to garden, try that! You may find that the giving of your time lends itself to learning your purpose. Stay willing and flexible. Continue to make notes in your notebook and pray for God’s leading. God’s timing is perfect but often not the same as our timeline. He will use you.

The time has come for us to bravely step into our roles. Remember, we were not created with “a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.” (2 Timothy 1:6) When we exhibit that spirit of power, we get to be super heroes who are fighting for the Lord. Thankfully, this does not entail spandex suits, but it is awe-inspiring to see someone following Jesus. Go on, ladies, be brave.

**Originally written for Emerge Mothers Academy Parenting Class**

 

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[1] Posthuma, P. (2015). B.L.E.S.S. Saying Yes [Sermon] Montgomery Community Church, Cincinnati, Ohio http://www.mcc.us/information/weekly-media

[2] Psalm 139:13 “For you created my inmost being; you knit me in my mother’s womb.”

[3] Matthew 22:37-39 “Jesus replied, “‘Love the Lord you God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”

Identifying Who God Called You to Be

Life is full of surprises, good and bad. As much as that sounds like a lame fortune cookie message, sometimes we forget that it is all a mixed bag. When I look back on my life, some of the surprises I got were awesome, like marring my husband. I honestly thought I would never get married. I thought I was too awkward and self-deprecating to be able to land a stud like the one I married. Some of the surprises were heart-wrenching like when my grandma died. My heart broke into what felt like a million pieces and even though that was over a year ago, I still grieve for her and miss her terribly. Some of the surprises were scary like when we had to relocate from Minneapolis to Cincinnati and we knew nobody. But all of these surprises where part of God’s plan and they all played a role in my life to mold me into the kind of person that He needs me to be to further his kingdom.

You play a vital role in furthering God’s kingdom too. Don’t look behind you, I’m talking about you! Yes, you. I know your life is messy. I know you’ve done things you wish you could take back. I have too. None of us are squeaky clean and yet God views us as valuable. These past few months, I have been learning about how much God loves me - us. Even though we feel, as mamas, that we have to be strong; we still get to be God’s baby girl. Can you just take a minute to let that nugget of truth sink down deep inside you? We are His baby girls. We are treasured by God. Treasured. This fact means that God has plans for our life that will also have value and while our purpose for this life may seem small, the ripple effects are going to be huge. Sometimes those divine plans can seem ambiguous. After all, I am a thirty-something mom who has been out of the work-force for almost three years – you better believe I too have wondered how I can further God’s kingdom. So the question becomes, what does God want to do with my life?

We are going to work through this question with a series of three articles that will unpack information to help us determine what God’s plan for our life is that will honor His kingdom. First, we are going to focus on identifying who God made us to be because we need to know ourselves and our strengths before we can determine how we can be used. This is going to require some self-reflection, so if you are struggling with figuring out God’s will for your life, don’t just hastily read through this. Pour yourself a cup of coffee, grab a notebook, get comfortable and allow yourself to really reflect on the fabulous woman that you are.

In your notebook, I want you to write MY FANTASTIC SKILLS. Yes, put that adjective, ‘fantastic,’ in your title. As women, we have a tendency to belittle our strengths, but God did not create us to be timid. 1 Timothy 1:7 says, “God did not give me a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.” You are not “just a single mom” or “just a stay at home mom” or “just not good enough.” Remember, you are God’s baby girl and because of that, you have a lot to offer. I am going to help you get started with your list of skills. Underneath your title of MY FANTASTIC SKILLS, I want you to write “A desire to be a better mama and woman” because that much is already true if you are partaking in this exercise. Now it’s your turn. I want you to take some time and write down attributes/skills/feelings that you positively display. I know it feels strange to write about yourself in this way, but give it a try. I promise there is a method to my madness. If I were to do this exercise, my list may look like this:

MY FANTASTIC SKILLS

-desire to be a better mama and woman

-organized

-empathetic

-good story teller

-welcoming hostess

-easily amused

-make delicious guacamole

-responsible

-nice handwriting

-planning

-writing

After you have made your list, study what you wrote. You should be able to make connections to many of the items on your list. If we use my list as an example, we can gather that I probably have decent administrative skills based on words I used like, ‘organized’, ‘responsible’, ‘planning’, ‘writing’, and even ‘welcoming hostess’. Or you may have looked at this list and thought maybe I have some teaching skills based on many of the same words like, ‘organized’, ‘responsible’, ‘planning’, ‘writing,’ but adding to that, ‘good story teller’ and ‘empathetic’. Group your words together and see what patterns you can make based on what skills you wrote, then give each group a title.

Everyone has skills. Everyone is good at something. Every one of you who did this exercise had at least one thing to write under your skills because remember, I started you off with one. These are things that come from simply being made in God’s image. Genesis 1:27“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” God is good; therefore we have good in us. However, those who have accepted Jesus Christ as their personal savior also have been given spiritual gifts. Romans 12:6-8 tells us, “We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. If a man’s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith. If it is serving, let him serve; if it is teaching, let him teach; if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously if it is leadership, let him govern diligently, if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully.” Spiritual gifts are different from the positive qualities that everyone possesses. They are reserved only for those who choose to follow the Lord and should be used to further His kingdom. Some of you are sitting on the fence, wondering what God’s will for your life is and yet you haven’t made that commitment to give your heart to the Lord.

If you want to know God’s will for your life; if you want to receive a spiritual gift; if you want to revel in the grace and forgiveness that only God can give, then consider that our Heaven Father, the One who considers you His baby girl, is calling you to walk more closely with Him. If you don’t have a personal relationship with Him, maybe that nudging you feel is Him pleading with you to let him into your life. In Matthew 11:28-30 Jesus said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Jesus wants to take your yolk. He wants to give you rest. But he also want you to make that choice. All it takes is a simple conversation between you and God. You could say is something like this:

Lord, thank you for loving me so much that you consider me your baby girl. Thank you for not giving up on me. Thank you for dying on the cross for me. Please forgive me for things I have done wrong and help me to make choices that are honoring to you in the future. Please come into my heart and help me every day to walk closer to you and to do your will.

If you prayed that prayer, you need to know that a huge party is going on heaven right now because of you! You are now a permanent part of the family of Christ and you can never be snatched out of the hand of Jesus – no matter what!! The Bible says so! John 10:28 “I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand.” Woo-hoo!!

Now, let’s get on to the gifts! The next part is going to take a little chunk of time, so set some aside in the midst of your busy day to sit down and take the Spiritual Gifts test. (http://www.spiritualgiftstest.com/test/adult) When you are finished you should have at least one gift that is predominate but you may even have two or three. In your notebook, underneath MY FABULOUS SKILLS, I want you to write MY SPIRITUAL GIFTS and then list the gifts that you were given based on the assessment.

Reflect on your skills and your gifts. Maybe even make a list of how you are currently using your gifts and skills or how you would like to use them. Then spend some time in prayer. Ask God to tell you what he wants you to do with what he has given you. It is okay to ask - in fact, it is encouraged! 1 John 4:14-15 says, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us – whatever we ask – we know that we have what we asked of him.” He is always pleased when we want to know how to bring glory to Him and to further His kingdom. This is your homework until the next time we meet. Use your notebook to write down nudging that you think may be from God. There are no wrong answers here; just the opportunity to reflect on identifying who God made you to be.

**Originally written for Emerge Mothers Academy Parenting Class**